How we say our final goodbyes is evolving. Today, there are more options available than ever before, reflecting the diverse needs and beliefs of our communities. We want to create personalised and meaningful farewells, that respect the wishes and the values of our loved ones. But we’re still not good at having conversations about our own death with those closest to us.
Research from the latest SunLife Cost of Dying Report showed that over half (54%) for people surveyed didn’t know if their loved one wanted a burial or cremation – 5% more than in 2022. That’s despite 66% of people surveyed saying if they’d known their loved one’s wishes it would’ve made planning the funeral less stressful.
The same report highlighted that, for many reasons, direct cremations have emerged as a popular alternative to the traditional cremation or burial. Often seen as a cost-effective and more environmentally friendly option – at this point it’s worth stating, a funeral held directly at the crematorium, with no procession or church service, isn’t the same as a direct cremation.
Surprised? It’s a common misconception. And so it’s important to understand exactly what a direct cremation is, and the wider considerations, in order to make an informed decision about a loved one’s, or your own, funeral.
What is a Direct Cremation?
Much simpler than a traditional cremation or burial, a direct cremation is sometimes referred to as an unattended funeral. The deceased will be collected and cremated without a viewing or funeral service. The ashes will be returned to the family to be scattered, buried or kept – depending on what’s been agreed. Direct cremations exclude many of the traditional elements associated with funerals like visitations and a ceremony.
What isn’t included in a Direct Cremation?
For those who might prefer a less formal and more cost-effective option, direct cremation can be an obvious choice. Before making any decision, it is important to consider what else isn’t included in an unattended or direct cremation:
- Visitation or viewing – there is no opportunity to visit, and pay your respects to a loved one before the cremation
- Embalming – the cremation usually takes place within a few days of the death, therefore embalming is not necessary. There is no formal preparation or dressing of the deceased but a simple coffin will be provided for transportation
- Choice date & time – direct cremations will often be scheduled based on the availability of the crematorium, therefore family and friends cannot choose a specific date or time
- Choice of location – larger, national direct cremation companies can transport the deceased to different locations, around the country, due to availability. Therefore, it is always worth confirming when making arrangements. Independent funeral providers will work with a crematorium local to a loved one
- Hearse – aligning with the overall objective of a more simple funeral, the deceased is usually transported in a modest vehicle.
Direct cremations offer a simplified approach to the traditional funeral, but the absence of certain ritual elements can impact the grieving process, and so it is important to consider your own emotional well-being and that of your family, as well as respecting the wishes of a loved one.
Emotional and spiritual considerations when choosing a Direct Cremation?
- A loved one’s wishes – it is important to reflect on your loved one’s wishes. When the time comes, it is better to have had the conversation so you understand and can honour their values, as well as their life
- Your emotional needs – to grieve is a deeply personal experience and sometimes individuals or families might want a public service, or would rather celebrate their loved ones in other ways. However, a visitation to a chapel of rest and a funeral service for many provides emotional comfort and closure at the loss of a loved one
- Cultural/religious beliefs – are there any cultural customs or religious rituals that need to be followed? Do you need to consider any specifics in the way your loved one is prepared, dressed and cared for? Do you, family or community members require visitation or a certain period of mourning before the cremation?
With You Every Step Of The Way
Here at Coles, what matters most to us, is your peace of mind – in the knowledge you’re honouring the wishes of a loved one. If you are looking for a simple funeral, and feel a direct cremation is the right choice, we can help by:
- Bringing your loved one into our care
- Managing of all professional arrangements
- Providing an eco coffin for the cremation
- Transporting your loved one to a local crematorium, with dignity
- Paying all crematorium and doctor fees on your behalf
- Returning the ashes of your loved one, to you, in a biodegradable casket
- Guiding you through the whole process, and suggesting what to do with the ashes when you are ready to decide a loved one’s final resting place.
Direct cremations are available for our Funeral Plan customers and our award-winning team are always ready to discuss your funeral requirements and the additional services you might want in tailoring a plan to suit you.
However you choose to say your final goodbye, we’re with you every step of the way. Speak to one of our experienced team for more information or visit Essentially Coles Direct Cremations.